Should you tell your boss you're worried about your mental health?

Problems with wellbeing or mental health do not need to limit your career.

by Adam Gale
Last Updated: 06 Sep 2016

Yes, this is an article about mental health, and no the picture above isn’t of someone clutching their head. Unfortunately, mental health (generally preferred over ‘mental illness’) remains surrounded in cliché. It makes it difficult to write about from a distance, let alone discuss on a personal level with colleagues or employers.

The reality though is that many people find themselves having to decide whether to do just that. Mental health problems vary widely in terms of both conditions and individuals’ experiences of them, but one thing they all have in common is that you can’t just leave them at home when you come to work in the morning.

Work can trigger (or in some cases help with) mental health problems, which in turn can affect performance. ‘Coming out’ about it is therefore no easy decision.

‘Lots of people worry about the impact disclosing a mental health problem will have on their career prospects,’ says Emma Mamo, head of workplace wellbeing at mental health charity Mind. Unfortunately, Mamo still hears from people who’ve been bullied, demoted or even pushed out over their mental health, but believes things are improving.

More and more employers are realising that it makes good business sense to be disability friendly, rather than suffering lost productivity from absenteeism, presenteeism and needlessly losing valuable staff. Indeed, there are now strong legal protections under the Equality Act for people whose conditions are recognised as disabilities.

Know yourself

Therein lies an important problem, however. Like mental health, disability is a word that puts some people off. Though Mamo advises those concerned about their mental health to go to the GP (especially if you want to invoke the protections of the Equality Act), she admits there are plenty who won’t go or even refuse to accept a diagnosis because of the enduring stigma. They don’t see themselves as ‘mentally ill’.

It can be difficult after all to know whether you’re just having a hard time at the moment or experiencing symptoms of something more serious. Jules Lockett, a practice manager at the London Ambulance Service, spoke recently of her own struggles with mental health following major surgery. ‘I just thought I was having a moment,’ she says. ‘I was stressed, but now we don’t have the word stressed, we say we’re "too busy".’

The bottom line is that if it feels like a problem to you, then it is a problem, whether it’s about mental health or wellbeing.

Knowing your surroundings

Recognising there’s an issue is half the battle, but it still doesn’t make it easier to know whether to tell your boss about it. Taking a good, hard look around you could be the best place to start. ‘The culture of your workplace is likely to have a massive impact on how comfortable you feel in coming forward. If you’ve seen colleagues treated badly upon admitting that they’re struggling with their mental health, you’re unlikely to put your head above the parapet,’ says Mamo.

The best workplaces are characterised, Lockett adds, by openness: ‘making sure people do feel comfortable and safe and able to share how they’re feeling, and that it’s not a taboo subject.’ If you’re not sure, ask yourself what would happen if someone was showing visible signs of distress and left their desk to make a cup of tea. Would anyone follow them and ask if they wanted to talk about it, or would you all keep your heads down?

Ultimately, it’s impossible to know how your employer or colleagues will react when you tell them something personal about yourself. If you do decide to tell them, keeping it businesslike and knowing beforehand what you want to discuss around reasonable adjustments can help, but no one should feel pressured to tell anyone.

Similarly, even if you decide not to tell your boss, it’s important to remember that this doesn’t mean you can’t tell anyone at all - peer support and external advice may be available. If nothing else it will help to realise you're not alone. ‘It is okay to have those feelings, it’s human,’ Lockett says. ‘Sometimes people just need to know that other people are going through the same things they are.’


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