• If you don't believe you're good enough, how will others ever know your worth? Poor self esteem is caused by a wide variety of factors. While we cannot change our past, we do have the power to alter our future. Here are 12 ways that you can raise your confidence levels and banish low self esteem.

    If you don't believe you're good enough, how will others ever know your worth? Poor self esteem is caused by a wide variety of factors. While we cannot change our past, we do have the power to alter our future. Here are 12 ways that you can raise your confidence levels and banish low self esteem.

  • GIVE YOURSELF PEP TALKS:  We all have negative voices in our minds that criticise us and bring us down. Silence them by focusing on the things you do well. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself how great you are doing. N.B. your brain registers a compliment better if spoken out loud.

    GIVE YOURSELF PEP TALKS: We all have negative voices in our minds that criticise us and bring us down. Silence them by focusing on the things you do well. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself how great you are doing. N.B. your brain registers a compliment better if spoken out loud.

  • STAND, WALK AND SIT STRAIGHT:  Good posture can have a huge impact on your confidence. Imagine that someone is pulling a string through the centre of your scalp, and ensure you walk tall and sit straight at all times.

    STAND, WALK AND SIT STRAIGHT: Good posture can have a huge impact on your confidence. Imagine that someone is pulling a string through the centre of your scalp, and ensure you walk tall and sit straight at all times.

  • REWARD YOURSELF:  Make sure that you stop and appreciate your achievements. Remember to reward effort. You can't always get what you want but you can always be grateful to yourself for trying.

    REWARD YOURSELF: Make sure that you stop and appreciate your achievements. Remember to reward effort. You can't always get what you want but you can always be grateful to yourself for trying.

  • VISUALISE SUCCESS:  Use your imagination to boost your confidence. Visualise situations where you succeed and show confidence. For this to be truly life-changing, take the time to jot down traits you want to cultivate, or situations you worry about. Close your eyes and imagine yourself nailing that difficult task or displaying those characteristics.

    VISUALISE SUCCESS: Use your imagination to boost your confidence. Visualise situations where you succeed and show confidence. For this to be truly life-changing, take the time to jot down traits you want to cultivate, or situations you worry about. Close your eyes and imagine yourself nailing that difficult task or displaying those characteristics.

  • JOIN IN:  Find networking groups on social media, join meet-ups with people who share your passions, and be honest about struggling with self-esteem. You'll quickly find that many other people have the same fears and you are not alone.

    JOIN IN: Find networking groups on social media, join meet-ups with people who share your passions, and be honest about struggling with self-esteem. You'll quickly find that many other people have the same fears and you are not alone.

  • DITCH THE BULLIES:  Are you surrounded by negative people? If you spend time with people who are critical and unkind, that can have a devastating impact on your self esteem. Phase these bad influences out of your life.

    DITCH THE BULLIES: Are you surrounded by negative people? If you spend time with people who are critical and unkind, that can have a devastating impact on your self esteem. Phase these bad influences out of your life.

  • COME OFF SOCIAL MEDIA:  Studies have linked social media to feelings of isolation, envy, and low self esteem. Comparing your life to the idealised versions posted by friends and acquaintances is never healthy. Try and reduce the amount of time you spend on these platforms, and remember that comparison is the thief of joy.

    COME OFF SOCIAL MEDIA: Studies have linked social media to feelings of isolation, envy, and low self esteem. Comparing your life to the idealised versions posted by friends and acquaintances is never healthy. Try and reduce the amount of time you spend on these platforms, and remember that comparison is the thief of joy.

  • NO ONE'S WATCHING YOU:  When you have low self esteem, you always think others are judging you or finding fault. The reality is that most people aren't thinking about you. They are more concerned about themselves. Remember this when you start to fret.

    NO ONE'S WATCHING YOU: When you have low self esteem, you always think others are judging you or finding fault. The reality is that most people aren't thinking about you. They are more concerned about themselves. Remember this when you start to fret.

  • HELP OTHERS:  Nothing improves your feeling of self worth like helping others. You can help out in your local community, volunteer for a charity, or simply find out little ways you can support your friends and family. Being selfless and putting others first will give you a huge boost.

    HELP OTHERS: Nothing improves your feeling of self worth like helping others. You can help out in your local community, volunteer for a charity, or simply find out little ways you can support your friends and family. Being selfless and putting others first will give you a huge boost.

  • SMILE:  Smiling is scientifically proven to make a difference to the way we feel. Make a resolution to smile every day, even when you do something simple like the washing up or having a shower. Smile for 10 minutes and it will be virtually impossible not to feel happier. Happiness breeds positivity and positivity breeds confidence.

    SMILE: Smiling is scientifically proven to make a difference to the way we feel. Make a resolution to smile every day, even when you do something simple like the washing up or having a shower. Smile for 10 minutes and it will be virtually impossible not to feel happier. Happiness breeds positivity and positivity breeds confidence.

  • AVOID PASSIVE AGGRESSION:  Those with low self esteem can be passive aggressive when they are angry or upset. Learn to state how you feel and what you need clearly and plainly, without playing games. People will respect you, and will be more likely to change their behaviour.

    AVOID PASSIVE AGGRESSION: Those with low self esteem can be passive aggressive when they are angry or upset. Learn to state how you feel and what you need clearly and plainly, without playing games. People will respect you, and will be more likely to change their behaviour.

  • IT TAKES COURAGE TO SEEK HELP:  If you are worried that your low self esteem is holding you back, don't be afraid to ask for help. It takes real bravery to admit you are vulnerable. Once you are honest about your issues, you won't feel like you have to hide behind a mask any more.

    IT TAKES COURAGE TO SEEK HELP: If you are worried that your low self esteem is holding you back, don't be afraid to ask for help. It takes real bravery to admit you are vulnerable. Once you are honest about your issues, you won't feel like you have to hide behind a mask any more.

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12 ways to banish low self esteem

by Rebecca Burn-Callander
Last Updated: 26 Mar 2018

Images: Shutterstock

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