Your route to the top: Control your ego

Concentrate on the outcome. Remember, it's the result that matters rather than your role in it. Searching for glory will only damage your chance of success.

Last Updated: 31 Aug 2010

Let others speak. Listen to their views and allow them to influence yours. A moment of silence once they've finished is worth a hundred interruptions while they're still talking.

Be generous. As the saying goes: 'If you catch too many fish, the best place to store them is in another person's stomach.' If colleagues feel they've gained from your achievements they will love you all the more.

Try modesty. You may be feeling good about what you have achieved but you don't have to tell everyone how great you are.

Treat people equally. Whether you are the boss, the client or the expert in the field, recognise that others have as much to contribute, just in different ways.

Be impartial. When someone asks for personal advice, put your own agenda to one side and base your recommendations on what you think is really in their best interest.

Spread your thanks liberally. Make a noise about the contributions your colleagues have made. Name them, and be specific about what they did so well. The appreciation will come back to you - perhaps when you really need it.

Adapt to criticism. It doesn't have to be wholeheartedly accepted, but enough to show that you are willing to change.

Fall down. All successful leaders show they are fallible. Allow yourself to make mistakes; these are the vitamins of learning and a powerful indicator of lasting leadership.

Draw your confidence from elsewhere. Don't let your identity be based entirely on how well you're doing at work. Self-esteem gains its strength from all parts of life.

'The Mind Gym: Give me time' is published by Time Warner Books (£12.99). Contact the firm at


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