The sales guys are going on a lads' night out. Do I have to go?

A reluctant member of the sales team is less than enamoured by the idea of a night out with the lads. can he avoid it?

by Jeremy Bullmore
Last Updated: 28 Mar 2014

Q: The sales guys have organised a team night out. And by 'night out', I mean booze, clubs, strippers and who knows what else. None of that appeals to me (I'm married with kids and I'm about 10 years older than the others) but I do want to be seen as a team player, plus a couple of our clients will be there. What should I do?

A: I don't like the sound of 'who knows what else'. The only thing I'd caution you against with absolute certainty is doing anything you know to be illegal.

Apart from that, I fear you should grin and bear it. Just don't sit there radiating disapproval, that's all. (If they'd organised a night at the opera and you couldn't stand opera, I bet you'd still have gone along.)

- Jeremy Bullmore is a former creative director and chairman of J Walter Thompson London. Email him your problems on editorial@managementtoday.com. Regrettably, no correspondence can be entered into.

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