What's your problem? - missed promotion

I made it to the last two for an internal promotion but didn't get the job that I really thought I wanted. I'm left in my old job and nothing has changed. I still enjoy working for the company, but I'm finding it difficult to work here now because the person who was promoted was a colleague and is now my boss.

by Jeremy Bullmore
Last Updated: 31 Aug 2010

I guess I'm jealous and also I keep imagining myself in their shoes and realising that I'm capable of doing what they do. However, I plan to start a family in the next six months and don't want the stress of moving to a new company and starting a new job while contending with becoming a father for the first time. What do you suggest I do?

A: What you need to do is give yourself time. You've analysed your feelings very accurately but they're still quite new and raw. Be patient, and they'll gradually begin to subside. So don't look for an immediate and total solution to your difficulties: you would have to leave the firm to have any chance of that, which wouldn't be sensible. You know your company well and enjoy working for it, and the management must rate you pretty highly to have considered you for that internal promotion.

Even without your forthcoming new parental duties, it wouldn't make sense to up sticks now. And isn't there likely to be another internal opportunity coming up before too long?

- Jeremy Bullmore is a former creative director and chairman of J Walter Thompson London. His book Another Bad Day at the Office is published by Penguin at £6.99. Address your problem to Jeremy Bullmore at: editorial@mtmagazine.co.uk. Regrettably, no correspondence can be entered into.

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