I work in a small technical department in an NHS hospital, and have enjoyed a reasonably good relationship with my boss. As part of the NHS reforms about 10 years ago, we had to re-apply for our jobs and I was approached and asked if I would like to apply for my boss's position. I took a moral stance and declined the offer, as I knew my boss would be out of a job if I was successful.
My boss is now talking about retirement and I'd always promised myself that this would be when I would tell him what happened. But we haven't been getting on so well recently, and I don't want to tell him in case he thinks I'm trying to make him feel obliged to recommend me as his successor. Can you advise?
A: I can understand your sensitivities, but I feel that you may just be engaging in a little doublethink.
Ten years ago, you not only declined to apply for your boss's position but also kept that decision from him. That was strong-minded of you. Why, then, did you promise yourself that as soon as his retirement became a reality you'd disclose the truth?
It can only be because, entirely humanly, you wanted his retrospective gratitude. Tell him now and his suspicions will be justified.
So stay strong-minded. Stay schtum.
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