There's a particular team member who cycles to work and teases me for being a bit on the large side. Their constant jibes are starting to really annoy me, but my manager just thinks it's funny. I'm afraid that if this carries on, I might just lose my temper and say something I'll regret. What is your advice?
A: This is real schoolboy stuff, isn't it? Here are the nobs of the First Eleven poking fun at Billy Bunter - and here's the form beak chuckling indulgently behind the staffroom door. Unfortunately, silly, cruel schoolboy stuff does quite often creep into office life. It's no fun at all for the luckless victim and, once established, it's a devil to eradicate.
I sympathise with your growing anger and your urge to bring it to a head, but please resist. It's almost impossible to retain control and dignity under these circumstances. Because you've been bottling it up, it will all tumble out with much greater resentment and self-pity than it warrants.
And your tormentors will be entitled to look at each other with expressions of innocent bewilderment and suggest you're suffering from a serious sense-of-humour bypass. You'll have made a tricky situation irrevocably worse.
That's what not to do. What you should do is more difficult to prescribe, but I suspect aiming for the opposite is as good a guide as any. Start by realising this: the jibes you're enduring loom a great deal larger in your life than in the lives of the jibers. I bet they'd be genuinely astonished if they realised how it was getting to you.
So learn to take those jibes with good humour. (Extremely difficult, I know, but try.) Roll your eyes a bit if you want to suggest that it's all a bit old hat and unoriginal. Teasing someone who resolutely refuses to rise to the bait is an unrewarding pastime. It may take a week or two, but they should soon get bored.
A final disrespectful thought: might your sensitivity about all this be at least in part due to that niggling feeling of yours that you really ought to lose an ounce or two?
Jeremy Bullmore has been creative director and chairman of J Walter Thompson London and a non-executive director of both the Guardian Media Group and WPP.
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