I've been going to my local French restaurant since we moved to the area 20 years ago. I know the owner quite well and have just learnt that his long-standing business partner is returning to France, and he's now looking for someone to take his place. I'm interested but it would mean I'd need to quit my job and work unsociable hours. I think my wife would be horrified by the loss of status and income, but this could make me really happy. Am I just another sad case of mid-life crisis?
A: Not sure it's mid-life crisis - but I'm pretty sure it's fantasy stuff.
Looked at from the outside, running a restaurant seems a wonderful wheeze.
But do you have any real idea of the hours involved, the tantrums thrown by your self-important chef, the impossible demands of those health and safety people?
To survive all this and remain a human being, you need the willing, indulgent support of a partner: and you haven't even discussed it with her yet.
How can you hope to be happy if she is not?
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